Every day women are bombarded with the silly idea that we are not good enough. We are taught that we need to wear makeup, go to the gym, color our hair, cook amazing meals, be a one-of-a-kind lover, wear certain clothes, and look much younger than we rightfully should or else we will not find a man who appreciates us, and our ability to attract a mate is what defines our worth. Is this the truth? No.
There are many women who don’t wear makeup, who don’t look like super models, who can’t cook, who don’t experiment in the bedroom, who only wear sweats, and who look their age yet are in satisfying relationships with men who adore them. And then there are many women who do follow society’s so-called “rules” of finding a mate yet are still single and lonely.
I decided to ask men what they find attractive about women and what they look for in a partner. Here are their answers:
“I prefer women who wear minimal makeup or none at all.”
“I don’t care if she knows how to cook.”
“I love women who have curves.”
“Men are supposed to have muscular abs, I like my women to have soft abs.”
“I like big, round asses.”
“Fake boobs are cool, but totally unnecessary.”
“Give me a low-maintenance girl over a high-maintenance girl any day.”
“Intelligence is sexier than a hot body.”
“Natural beauty is a turn on.”
“The thicker the better.”
“All that shit you girls do isn’t for us, it’s for other women. Men are simple. You guys complicate things too much and you’re always trying to one-up each other.”
“Catty, bitchy women are a major turn off.”
Shocking, isn’t it? If this is true, why are women everywhere trying so hard? Who told us that men only like a certain type of woman? Why do we still believe the lie that we have to do certain things to get a man to love us? Men really don’t care the way we think they do. Of course physical attraction is necessary. But who decided what men find attractive? We do these incredible things to try and attract men to our own detriment. I think it’s time to take a good, hard look at how we treat ourselves and other women.
Today’s challenge: Dress down, leave the makeup on the shelf, and appreciate the uniqueness that is YOU. Eat the burger and fries if you feel so inclined. Put that magazine down! Smile at other women. Give a sincere compliment to a woman who doesn’t meet your standards of beauty. Smile kindly at men you don’t find attractive. Share what your experience doing these things did to YOU.