In a world where women are taught they need to wear makeup and spend an obscene amount of money on their hair and nails in order to be loved, I took a stand to live my life differently by appreciating the way I look without all of the unnecessary bells and whistles.
It is quite amusing to see the expressions on the faces of those who find out I do not wear any makeup. I mean, they are flabbergasted! Why do you think that is? It is because the confidence I exude without makeup distracts people from the fact that I choose not to wear makeup. And I am more comfortable with the way I look than a lot of the women I know who do wear makeup.
Friends, I don’t wear makeup and I still think I’m beautiful. I don’t wear makeup and other people still think I’m beautiful. I don’t wear makeup and I’m still loved by those around me.
Today’s challenge: Leave the makeup on the shelf and tell yourself you’re much more beautiful without it. You may not know this but… you really are! If you can’t go a day without makeup, ask yourself why that is and then sit quietly for an honest answer. You may be surprised at what you discover.
In talking with friends about relationships, the subject of “women who mooch” came up. My male friends asked me if I knew any women like that. I told them that I used to be that woman. They couldn’t believe it because I’m so independent today. I reminded them that my independence came later in life because of my sober lifestyle and the desperation for self respect and self sufficiency, not in spite of doing nothing to change.
There is nothing more attractive, in my opinion, than people who think of the needs of others and take action to live selflessly. We are not saints and we will fail at living selflessly over and over again, but it’s obvious when we’re working toward selflessness as opposed to living a life of “what about me?”.
Here’s a question: if you’re only dating women who you believe to be “mooches”, would you be open to the thought that maybe you’re one of them or that you practice behavior of similar caliber? We’ve all heard the phrase “like attracts like”, right? I mean, we can point fingers all we want but what good is that if the result is unhappiness?
If you’re a man who wants to stop meeting moochie girls, here are a few suggestions from the biggest ex mooch of them all (me):
• Quit dating and sleeping with party girls. Duh!
• Date women who are wise with the money they earn. If they’re wise with their own money, they will be considerate of yours (because they understand the value in investing as opposed to foolish spending).
• Stop spending all of your money on dates, find free things to do instead (you’ll weed out the mooches indefinitely).
• Go out with women who read for pleasure.
• Do volunteer work.
• Quit dating unemployed girls who don’t have their own place! Another duh!
• Listen to how she talks about people. Is she nasty? If so, she is probably a selfish, hateful person and you should run for your life!
• Date a woman who can throw down in the kitchen. She will want to cook for you and when she cooks for you, you’ll save money on dinner.
• Date a low-maintenance girl. Don’t ask, just do it.
Love is a gamble, sex is a game
The boy does the fucking, the girl gets the blame
He says that he loves you, you think that it’s true
But no, silly girl, he’s fucking others, too
One night of pleasure, nine months of pain
Now you’re in the hospital with a baby to name
The baby’s a bastard, the mother’s a whore
This wouldn’t have happened if the condom hadn’t tore
I would love to take credit for this one but I did not write it. I heard it when I was 12 and I never, ever forgot it. I wish I had heeded the strong warning inherent in this poem. The author is unknown.
Money is wasted everyday on things we do not need (but think we do). Advertisements have sold us the lie that we need this or that for this and that when we already have items we could be using in their place. Let’s see how we can replace western culture’s commercial baby products.
1. Coconut Oil instead of Desitin, Baby Lotion, and Baby Oil
2. Cornstarch or Arrowroot Powder instead of Baby Powder
3. Reusable cloth diapers instead of disposable diapers
4. DIY Baby Wipes (recipe posted on doterraeveryday.com): What you need
• 1 roll of soft paper towels
• 2 cups of warm water
• 2 tbsp olive, coconut, avocado, grapeseed, or almond oil
• A few drops of essential oils (optional)
• An airtight container or empty wipe container What you do
Cut paper towel roll in half. *One roll makes two sets of wipes.* Combine all other ingredients together in a bowl. Place one of the cut paper towel roll halves in your container. Pour the liquid mixture on top of the roll. Cover with airtight lid and let sit for 10 minutes. Turn over and let sit for 10 more minutes. Remove and discard the cardboard middle.
5. DIY Baby Wash (same as the DIY Body Wash recipe posted on my blog)
6. Homemade baby food using a blender or food processor
7. DIY Baby Shampoo & Conditioner (same as the DIY Shampoo & Conditioner recipes posted on my blog)
8. DIY Baby Laundry Detergent (same as the DIY Laundry Detergent recipe posted on my blog)
Do you make your own baby products? Would you consider using these safe, natural, simple, affordable ingredients on your precious baby?
People are often surprised when I tell them I don’t work out. They ask me how I stay fit and trim. This is my answer:
1. I Eat Good Food
If you’ve read my other posts, you already know how I eat. If you haven’t, take a look. Healthy food, when done right, is inexpensive and tasty! Don’t believe the hype that health food drains your wallet and tastes like crap.
2. My Method Of Transportation Is Walking & Biking
I do not own a car, which makes it easier for me to walk and bike everywhere. (When I say easier, I mean it’s easier to motivate myself.) How long do most people spend at the gym? An hour, maybe two? I save time and money by walking and biking to work, school, appointments, etc.
3. I Have Fun
I was in the military for 4 years, and I hated all the running, sit-ups, push-ups, etc. I was in fantastic shape but I thought working out “military-style” was boring! Today I make hula hoops and regularly teach hoopdance. I’ve been hooping for 15 years now and I love it! The trick was finding out what physical activities I actually enjoyed (besides sex). Who wants to work out when we can play instead?!
What you need
Warm coffee grounds
Plastic wrap (optional)
What you do
Mix 2 parts coffee grounds to 1 part olive oil in a bowl. Rub affected areas in a circular motion with your coffee scrub for about 5 minutes. If you’re hardcore, wrap the parts of your body that are covered in your scrub with plastic wrap, and keep them wrapped for 20-30 minutes. If you chose not to wrap, just leave your scrub on for 20-30 minutes. When you’re done marinating in coffee scrub, rinse and pat dry. Repeat as often as you’d like. Most people don’t see results unless they do this 3 times a week.
What other ways have worked for you in reducing the appearance of cellulite?